«

»

Apr 16

Obama Widens Medical Rights for Same-Sex Partners – NYTimes.com

New York Times

Obama Widens Medical Rights for Same-Sex Partners – NYTimes.com.  Well, the title’s a bit misleading, but the sentiment is summed up in this passage:

Richard Socarides, who advised President Bill Clinton on gay rights issues, said that while the memorandum on its own did not grant any new rights, it did “draw attention to the very real and tragic situations many gays and lesbians face when a partner is hospitalized.”

I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop where the more conservative opponents of Obama raise a protest somewhere extremely inappropriate about how they feel their own rights have been infringed upon by this memorandum.

We can hope, though, that this is a sign of things to come.  And one small note on gay marriage and that whole debate … if it became legal, the government wouldn’t be any larger, nor would it force itself into your church, or insist that you personally go out and marry someone with your same gender.  It would make it so it’s legal.  That’s all.  That union would be legally recognized by the state/government.  There’s nothing in there about them forcing your congregation to perform those marriages.

So instead of becoming indignant and upset immediately upon someone bringing it up, stop and put yourself in their shoes.  Imagine that the tables were turned and your own country was telling you that your relationship with your wife, or husband, wasn’t real.  Imagine that your fellow countrymen/women thought it would diminish the worth and value of their own relationships if yours was recognized.  Does that seem appropriate in a country based on the tenets of freedom and equal rights for all?

You’re entitled to think that it’s wrong.  You’re entitled to cling to your beliefs that people different than you are somehow less worthy of fair treatment or equal rights (and this applies to more issues than this, like abortion for example) … but when you force your own biases and prejudices on other people, you’re doing the very thing you’re afraid they’ll do to you.

So before you get angry and feel like your relationship is losing worth based on a legal recognition of some kind, or go stand outside a Planned Parenthood with your bible and your dead fetus pictures … consider what it is you’re actually doing and thank whatever deity you worship that there are an almost equal amount of people making sure your hypocrisy doesn’t affect everyone.



Leave a Reply