I don’t need much to be this happy.
This weekend went by with a whimper and a pthbthbthb. Oh and mrowling. There was much mrowling to be had by Lucy, but more on that another day. I think I’m starting to understand what she wants depending on the time of day and proximity to the last time she was fed or had a productive outing. I’ll leave it at that.
I have had a lot on my mind … as I look back I think I have almost always had a lot on my mind. Very rarely does it affect my sleep, but at least 5 or 6 nights out of the last two weeks have found me lying awake, staring at one wall or another, trying to make sense of what I’ve been feeling and going through. I try to keep my private life private so I don’t write about it much here … especially in specifics … but I’m finding that my priorities in life are very clear. Love being first and foremost, work being way down on the list.
For all the bullshit that goes on at work more often than not I’m able to come home and not think about it at all until I have to head back in the following morning. Sunday nights are the exception there, but all of this dreading work lead me to a realization earlier today. There needs to be a balance. I need to have at least as many things that I’m blissfully happy about, or looking forward to, as there are things that I dread. I wouldn’t mind if I had a few more wins in the Happy column, constantly tipping the scales in that direction. I can think of a thing or two that would help drastically, but we don’t always get what we want right?
Speaking of the Happy column, and Love, I have a request. This is a little unprecedented but I want to get some outside input for this Thursday’s #AskSisyphus. It’s going to be about what it takes to be in a relationship. So I want your opinions on what you think is involved in a successful relationship. You can post them as comments if you like but I’d prefer it if you’d email them to me at sisyphus@takenseriouslyamusing.com.
I’ve got my own thoughts on the matter, and sure I could go and troll Google for random strangers’ opinions, but I want to leverage the tightknit community we have here and build the post around everyone’s experiences and ideas. So I don’t care who you are or whether you’ve had successful relationships, fake relationships, imaginary relationships or purely sexual relationships with successful imaginary people. I want to hear your thoughts. And if the emails aren’t forthcoming, rest assured that I will be bothering you personally over the next couple days.
Your names will be left out of it, unless you feel strongly about having your name next to your ideas (which I’d understand) … so let me know. I hope this weekend proved to be a good one for all of you and if you need shits and giggles you know where to find me.
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Lost in the Cube
October 1, 2012 at 7:08 am (UTC -7) Link to this comment
To me it all boils down to respect. With out that you can’t have a relationship with any real meaning. Love (or lust) with wax and wain over time, but if you really respect someone, you can have a much deeper comitted relationship, but only if they have the same respect for you. And I don’t mean respect for what they do, if they are attractive, or if they make money, I mean respect for who they are inside, their belief’s and ideas, how they treat others, how they treat animals, what truely makes them the person they are. Then I think you will want to be with that person for the long haul. At least I think I would.
cube_girl
October 1, 2012 at 1:11 pm (UTC -7) Link to this comment
Relationships are tricky and each one is so different. I don’t think there is a one-size-fits-all formula. Having said that, I do believe that you do have to like and respect each other. Of course love and physical attraction are super important, but truly enjoying the company of the other person; agree and respect their stance on the topics that are most important to YOU. Respecting the other person, and be respected back are important qualities to me. Being able to laugh together.
When I was single (after a long marriage and agonizing divorce) and would go out on first/blind date, I would ask myself the following two questions to decide if I would want to go on a second date: 1. Would I want to kiss (and more) this person? 2. Would I introduce this person to my children in the future? (teens at the time). For someone without kids, the second question could be if you would introduce this person to your friends and family. Would he/she fit in with your life?
And it takes hard work from both people to sustain a happy relationship. Keep it fun and fresh. Help each other through bad times. Don’t take it for granted. And say “I love you” as many times as feels right to both of you. Don’t ever stop surprising each other. Keep revealing new things to each other (childhood experiences, fun facts). Don’t sweat the small stuff – pick your battles, we are all just human.
This is my short answer – I will follow up when I come up with more
cube_girl
October 1, 2012 at 7:02 pm (UTC -7) Link to this comment
And P.S. I have now been married for 2 years to the most wonderful man. We are very happy together and act like two giddy teenagers in love. Our relationship is everything I wrote about in my earlier comment – it’s an easy-going relationship. No drama, no fighting, no power struggles, no judging – just a whole lotta love and fun times.
We met online, so it can happen to you! “Don’t stop believing” and never give up on finding happiness. The romantic in me believes there is someone special for everyone. ♥
Sisyphus
October 1, 2012 at 9:08 pm (UTC -7) Link to this comment
I really appreciate all of the input everyone =) I’ll probably start on this tomorrow since it’s gearing up to be a long one. If you have any other thoughts feel free to post them here or email them to me. As long as I get them before 4-5pm on Wednesday I can get it included =)